Category Archives: Grieving the loss of a pet

How to Pack for an Unexpected Guilt Trip

At our monthly grief support group, I have the privilege to listen to people’s stories and hear what they are experiencing during their grief process. Last month, I noticed a common thread between the stories – the presence of a … Continue reading

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Ways People Grieve Part II – Families

Grieving Styles We all have our own unique way of expressing and working with grief – our own style.  In Ways People Grieve Part I, I’ve described how “instrumental” grievers experience grief primarily through thinking and doing, and how “intuitive” … Continue reading

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Ways People Grieve Part I – The Myth of Men and Grief

It is a common expression of concern for men to hear that “it’s important to express your feelings about this loss.”  The prevailing conventional “wisdom” is that men do not necessarily grieve well… that they could be better at expressing … Continue reading

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Permission to Grieve, Part II (Permission to Heal)

In addition to giving yourself permission to grieve, it’s just as essential to give yourself permission to heal. That may sound obvious – isn’t healing the point? Healing and changing is part of the grieving process, but the moments in … Continue reading

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Permission to Grieve, Part I

When we talk to clients facing heart-wrenching decisions, we frequently hear apologies about their tears or distress. I always reply that, of course, it is okay and that there’s no need to apologize. However, my response never seems to do … Continue reading

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A Good Cry

Built to cry… The grief that accompanies the loss of a beloved companion animal is profound and the pain of that loss can be felt emotionally, spiritually, and physically.  Grief is a grueling physical experience and shedding tears is one … Continue reading

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Laughter Through Tears

As you can imagine, most of our appointments involve a lot of tears and moments of sadness and reflection.  As veterinarians whose careers are devoted to assisting with end-of-life care, this is something we expect and have become very comfortable … Continue reading

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Bandit’s Grief

Every once in a while, something really unusual happens and I feel like I’ve witnessed something extraordinary. One of my patients this week was a lovely black lab mix named Indy who had reached the end of her journey with … Continue reading

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